Living at Level Zero

In previous articles, I have described the Satanic Spin and how that gets you onto the Chemical Scale.  Once you begin paying attention to your own chemicals, unedifying emotions, thoughts, internal conversations, decisions, and actions, you recognize just how hard it is to stay close to Level Zero.  Satan messes with us constantly.  He never sleeps and never takes holidays.  He will try to make you spin every day.  He will try to drag you down the scale to poor decisions, several times a day.  It takes a lot of training to get to the point where you can maintain Level Zero for the majority of a day.  But when you get there, that day will be like no other day you’ve had before.

The experiences that come are hard to describe.  I cannot do it well without examples, and I cannot describe someone else’s experiences adequately.  Please forgive the extensive use of personal examples in this article, I hope they will help you understand what Living at Level Zero can be like for you.

Some days are better than others.  Many days are rough.  The days I will be describing here are normal, almost mundane days, but I experienced them in a totally different way because I was choosing and working to Live at Level Zero.

I wake up most mornings at a Level One or a Level Two on the Chemical Scale.  My mouth tastes funny, my back is usually stiff and sore.  I have a hard time concentrating on any particular thing.  Nobody else is awake yet.  I say a brief prayer that often could be described as “cookie cutter.” The order of the words is probably different, but the ideas are the same.  I try to make it meaningful, but that is often hard for me to do in the mornings.  I put on my exercise clothes, get a cold drink of water, and drive to the gym.  I keep the radio off and pray out loud most of the way there.  These prayers are much more conversational.  The topics are often the same, but there is meaning in these prayers because these topics are things that mean a lot to me.  I finish the prayer as I lock my car and walk into the gym.  I choose my workout for the day and put my headphones in.  I press play on the next episode of the Eternal Warrior Podcast and listen as I exercise for the next thirty minutes.  I finish my exercise and return to the car feeling much more awake and focused than the first time I got in it.  I continue listening to the episode as I drive home.  I’ll sit in my living room until the episode is done.  By this point, I’m usually Zeroed Out, but on the best days, I’ve got Warrior Chemistry in my veins.

I shower with purpose and intensity.  It is an odd experience to describe.  I enjoy long, hot showers like most people.  But on the days where I am Living at Level Zero, I have more important things to do.  My mind is focused on upcoming activities planning steps to take, as I get clean and get out.  These showers aren’t rushed, they are focused.  It is hard to describe.  They are done with purpose and a gentle but persistent intensity.

I make a simple breakfast.  Normally my mind is still pondering upcoming Passion Projects, or important activities as I’m cooking or pouring a bowl of cereal.  As I eat, I read from the Book of Mormon, following my study pattern which includes noticing and highlighting every time emotion and feeling words are used.  I focus on empathizing with at least one of those emotional experiences.  What would I be experiencing if I were in the same situation?  What things would have to happen so that I could be feeling the same way as this person?

I finish breakfast and reading and either write or work on a Passion Project until my 18-month old son wakes up.  Usually, I will try to read, work, or distract myself on my phone after I get him up.  On days when I Live at Level Zero, I give him all of my attention.  There is, again, a gentle but persistent intensity as I play with my son.  This is the most important thing I can be doing at that time.  He gets all of my focus as I change his diaper, fix him breakfast, read him books, and play with him until my wife is ready to wake up.

This gentle and persistent intensity of focus follows most of my activities throughout the day; school, work, cooking, etc.  Have you ever played with someone’s hair with intensity and focus?  Your fingers are gentle but your mind is sharp and present.  In those moments I recognize that giving my wife my affection and attention are the most important things I can be doing.  I don’t allow myself to daydream as my fingers move half-heartedly.  I don’t allow myself to think about what I’d rather be doing.  In those moments, it’s not about me.  It’s about being there for my wife.  The by-product is that I continue to Live at Level Zero.

Eventually, as I near bedtime, I am filled with a huge sense of fulfillment and excitement about what was accomplished that day. My day was full. I was busy by choice. I didn't rush from one activity to another, I moved from one to the next with deliberate focus. For someone who is as distractible as I normally am, having this kind of intense focus on one activity is uncommon. To have it for most of a day is a miracle that only seems to come when I am Living at Level Zero.

To Live at Level Zero requires consistent maintenance. You must keep doing things that help you Zero Out and doing your other activities with intention and purpose. There was a recent day where I did fairly well at maintaining a Level Zero until early evening. I felt I had some spare time on my hands and chose to spend time on my phone. It only took 30 minutes of combined time on Facebook and news to throw off the rest of my night. In only 30 minutes I was at a high Level 2 and proceeded to do several things against my value system that night.

It's odd, Living at Level Zero should be exhausting. It takes so much maintenance to stay Zeroed Out. Paradoxically, the things you do to stay at Level Zero are rejuvenating. Living at Level Zero gives you the energy you need to continue being Zeroed Out and doing things with a gentle intensity and focus. When I slip down the Chemical Scale and am no longer doing those things that rejuvenate me is when I have a "crash" like coming down from a sugar rush.

Living at Level Zero is not a daily occurrence for me yet. It is something I work towards and struggle to achieve. But when I do get to Live at Level Zero, the things that I get done that day are amazing. It's not so much the number of things that I accomplish, but how I do them. Each thing is done with purpose, mindfulness, and intent. It doesn't take years of training to Live at Level Zero for a day, but it does take practice and awareness of where you are at on the Chemical Scale.

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Letters to Heaven

Writing is a powerful tool that enables personal progression. Unfortunately, this is a tool that isn't used to its full potential by many. In this article, I will introduce a form of writing that is more powerful than just recording your thoughts and the events of the day. The particular form of writing I'll be focusing on is called Letter to God.

This letter is basically a written prayer. The simple act of writing down what you want to pray about, or for, helps you think more deeply. A written prayer is often more carefully phrased and more sincere than a spoken prayer.

Many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are uncomfortable with the idea of writing a prayer. There is nothing wrong or sinful about writing a prayer. Our sacred ordinances, such as baptisms and the sacrament, are written prayers. The dedicatory prayer for the Kirtland Temple was received by revelation and written down so it could be read verbatim, then eventually became the 109th section of the Doctrine and Covenants.

Writing a letter to God is fairly straightforward. You start by writing "Dear God," or "Dear Father in Heaven," or whatever is comfortable for you and then you just write what's on your mind. You can share your experiences of the day, you can ask questions, you can record your thoughts and feelings, whatever is on your mind. I've met people whose most helpful, edifying, and uplifting letters were when they were just upset and vented at God about all of their problems.

Writing letters to God like this can be very helpful. It helps you think through your desires and prayers a little more. It is another form of accountability. It helps you remember things better. It can also be a very powerful form of revelation.

Another way that Letters to God are helpful is they can help you be consistent in your prayers without having vain repetitions. It is important to understand that while we are warned against vain repetitions in our prayers, repetitions are not bad. The 1828 Merriam Webster dictionary is a powerful resource because it shows what words meant when Joseph Smith was translating the Book of Mormon. In that time the most frequent use for vain meant, "empty or meaningless." Repetitions in prayer, or pray consistently for or about things that are important to us are good so long as we make sure they are full of meaning. Letters to God can help facilitate that process.

This happens when you write a prayer with the intention of reading and reciting that prayer several times. You follow basically the same pattern as any other Letter to God; you start with addressing Him however you're comfortable and then you thoughtfully write down the desires of your heart. You return to this letter often, usually once or twice a day. As you review the letter/prayer you look for ways to revise it and make it more specific, or to make it sharper, to better communicate the desires of your heart. As you pray in this manner with sincerity and consistency, you will see a subtle change in the power of your prayers.  The Lord wants us to ask, seek, and knock.  I think seeking implies repeated effort.  God wants us to ask with consistency.  He will test our patience a little to see if we really want what we are asking for as much as we say we do.  Following this pattern will help you pray with consistency for your deepest desires, to pray with repetitions, but not vain repetitions.

My favorite part about writing letters to God is when I receive a letter back. This may sound weird but it's not very different from the process of how Joseph Smith received most of the Doctrine and Covenants. Receiving a letter from God is simple but powerful. The pattern I follow when I want to receive a letter from God is I begin by writing a letter. In that letter, I ask any questions or share thoughts that I may have that I'm seeking guidance on. After I finish writing the letter I pause and try to get my head and my heart to a good place.

One of the things I have found is I have to be willing to receive the letter, I have to be willing to listen. And this isn't the kind of listening that you do with your ear but the kind of listening that you do with your heart. If I'm in the right place of head and heart and if God wants to communicate with me and typically what happens is I hear the words "Dear Bryton" come into my mind. Then other words begin to follow and I write them down exactly as they come.

At the moment you are receiving these words they may not all make sense. I've even had experiences where God told me words I didn't know what they meant and I had to go look up the definitions later. Write them down exactly as you received them. There was another experience where I was receiving a letter and there was a word that I didn't think fit in the sentence so I wrote down a different word instead. It was as if a concrete wall fell and stopped all communication. Nothing was coming, so I went back and erased what I had written and wrote down what the word was supposed to be. Then the barrier lifted and communication began to flow again.

After God finishes responding I go back and reread the letter. I've found that the content of the letters is similar in quality to my patriarchal blessing. These letters are personal. These letters are sacred. The things that are communicated to me come in a way where I don't doubt that it literally is a communication from my Father in Heaven.

Another thing I have found is there's nothing else that better prepared me to give Melchizedek priesthood blessings. The process of receiving a letter from God for myself is very similar to the process of receiving a priesthood blessing for somebody else. As I've asked other people who've had both experiences of receiving a letter from God as well as giving a priesthood blessing to someone else they have shared similar thoughts and feelings that the experiences are quite close.

Writing Letters to God is a very powerful and versatile form of writing.  It is something many do consistently as part of their Border Patrol.  I recommend that you try it.  If you write a prayer to your God daily for twenty-one days in a row, what miracles might you witness or revelations might you receive?

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Dear Future Spouse

Writing is a powerful tool that enables personal progression. Unfortunately, this is a tool that isn't used to its full potential by many. In this article, I wanted to introduce a form of writing that is more powerful than just recording your thoughts and the events of the day. The particular form of writing I'll be focusing on is called Letter to Future Spouse.

This powerful form of writing can be incredibly helpful for teenagers to use, and the pattern is easy to adapt to someone who is already married. This letter writing can be a potent form of accountability and ministering, as well as a medium for deep reflection.

Part of what makes these letters powerful is that they are written with the intention that they will be read. As you begin composing these letters, promise yourself that the night before your wedding you will give your future spouse a box full of letters. It can be fun to imagine how they will probably stay up really late reading the things you have written to them.

These letters are pretty straightforward. Start by writing "Dear Future Wife" or "Dear Future Husband" at the top of the page, and then just write whatever is on your mind. Write whatever you would write in a letter to someone you know now and care about deeply. That will often include your activities from the day, but it doesn't have to. I began writing to my future wife when I was 18. I would talk about what I did that day, battles for self-mastery I won, battles for self-mastery I lost, my thoughts, my feelings, I would ask questions, I wrote her stories, I even composed poetry. I didn't realize until years later how corny some of those poems were, but my Darling loves them (sometimes because they're corny).

These letters may seem a little ridiculous, but they are powerful. One of the main ways that these letters will benefit you is by changing the way you think about your choices and actions. When you recognize that these letters will be read by someone you would really like to impress, it becomes uncomfortable to write about all of the poor decisions you make. As you consistently account to your future spouse through these letters, you will begin to pause and think when faced with the opportunity to do something dumb. At that moment you will remember that you will have to write later about this decision to someone you really want to impress. Remembering that makes it easier to go and do something awesome instead. Then later you can write "Dear Future Spouse, Today I had the chance to do something dumb, but I thought of you and am a better person because of it."

Another powerful effect of these letters is on the person you are writing them to. As I mentioned before, I began writing letters to my Future Wife when I was 18 years old. I was 23 when I married my Darling. I wrote to her almost every night and over that period accumulated more than 2,000 letters to give her. Imagine the good it could do to read over and over again "Dear Future Wife, I am a better man because of you and I look forward to finally meeting you." You can begin showing that you care before you even know the name of who you are writing to.

If you are already married, it isn't difficult at all to adapt these letters. You just drop "Future" from the beginning of the letter. Writing these letters may be even more enjoyable for you than for a teenager because you can see how your spouse reacts when they read them.

By writing to someone with the intention that these letters will be read takes normal journaling to a deeper level. It promotes deeper thought and more thorough reflection. It can be a very meaningful way to minister. It can even become one of the most uplifting parts of your Border Patrol.

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Learning from your victories

Q2: How did you win your most difficult recent battle? What did you do right that helped you win?

Satan works hard to get us to forget. He wants us to forget how he beat us so he can use the same tactic again (see Learning from Failure). He wants us to forget why we fight. He wants us to forget to do our Border Patrol activities (also see Out of Sight, Out of Mind). This is one of the primary techniques he uses in this war. Another thing he wants us to forget is how we won. Ponder for just a moment, what does Satan gain when he persuades us to forget how we beat him?

It seems blatantly obvious that being able to repeat victories is essential to long-term success. Yet, Satan subtly gets us to minimize our victories and exaggerate our failures. This is partially why reflecting on recent victories is the second question of "The Captain's Log" in the book Like Dragons Did They Fight.

If you are having a hard time identifying how you won, start by replaying the story of what happened. It can be very helpful to tell someone or write it down. I find it both amusing and helpful to start with "There I was, minding my own business when…" After recounting the story, go back and identify the things you did correctly that helped you to win. Some people even develop an "arsenal" by writing down the "weapons" that they have successfully used to win battles. Identifying and drilling those techniques is a powerful way to build your Border Patrol and win battles before they even happen. The added benefit is that by drilling those strategies, they will come easily when you need them the most in battle.

A real-life example may be helpful to illustrate this. So there I was, minding my own business, trying to prepare to teach a Sunday School lesson when Satan hit me with a wave of "you don't feel like it." I paused to check how I felt and, sure enough, I no longer felt like preparing to teach my lesson. Satan quickly suggested an alternative activity that I did feel like doing, playing a game on my phone. The Holy Ghost chimed in and reminded me of how poorly my lesson went last time I didn't prepare, and how I felt about that afterward. After receiving those gracious reminders from the Holy Ghost, I got up and walked to the kitchen table where my lesson materials were. I still didn't feel like preparing for my lesson, but I did it anyway.

In this situation, I valued teaching a lesson that invited the Spirit and edified those who heard it. Satan attacked that value and offered an "innocent" alternative. I hope you noticed my levels on the Chemical Scale in this battle. Satan subtly spun me around the Satanic Spin until I was at a Level 2 (Unedifying Emotion), which in this case was "I don't feel like it." As soon as he got me to recognize the emotion he had planted in me, he hit me with a Level 3 (Dude Moment). In this battle the temptation was a blend of distraction and procrastination, to put off my preparations and play an "innocent and creative" game on my phone instead. Was it a lie that the game was "innocent and creative?"  Actually, no. I wouldn't have it on my phone if it wasn't. He was trying to get me to replace something that was "Better" with something that was merely "Good" (see "Good, Better, Best" by Elder Dallin H. Oaks). Fortunately for me, the Spirit stepped in and I acted on the promptings I received.

There were two major things I did right in this battle. The first was to act on the promptings I received. The second was to do what needed to be done regardless of how I felt. In the process, I ignored Satan's temptations and won the battle.

What things are you doing right to win your battles? How could you sharpen and improve those tools so you can win faster or better in the future?

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"Caught Ya!" - bringing dark things to light

In one of his final conversations with his son Helaman, Alma the Younger shares that “by small and simple things are great things brought to pass” (Alma 36:7-8?).  One of the most simple but powerful tools in Spiritual Warfare is Bringing Dark Things to Light.  Throughout scripture there are several references to Satan working in the dark, using forbidden covenants and secret combinations.  God works in the light.  What the world calls secret, is really sacred.  Truths that are so important that they are “set apart,” which is what the word sacred means.  God never intended for any knowledge to be withheld from anyone.  The most sublime truths that are only appropriate to discuss in the temple were meant to be taught to everyone.  All that keeps someone from learning these sacred things is their own lack of appropriate preparation.

When Satan fights, he tries to fill his opponents with shame.  He wants you to be so mortified by the thoughts, feelings, and temptations that he offers you that you won’t dare mention them to anyone.  Satan is a pedophile.  He works to convince you that the dark thoughts and feelings he sends you are yours.  He wants you to believe bad things are your fault, and that because you enjoy the sense of pleasure that comes with the sins he persuades you to do that you actually like being bad and are broken beyond repair.  When someone with a physical body says these kinds of things to a child, we call them a pedophile.  When Satan whispers these kinds of things to us in our own voice, remember he is an excellent ventriloquist, we call them “negative self-talk.”

One of the easiest ways to annihilate this kind of dark is to bring it into the light.  Say it out loud.  Notice the immediate thoughts or feelings you are probably experiencing right now?  Perhaps they are feelings of the horror of what other people might think if they heard those thoughts.  Maybe the thought is something like, “Well that’s a stupid idea.”  Remember, Satan is a pedophile.  What would a pedophile with a mortal body tell a child when they consider saying out loud the things that were happening to them in the dark?  Satan knows how powerful the simple act of shining light on his work is.  It is devastating.  Crippling.  Debilitating.

Allow me to share a real-life example that illustrates this point.  When I began dating the woman I wanted to marry, we set some basic rules to keep us safe (never be the only two in a house/building, can’t be together past midnight, that kind of thing).  Almost immediately after we were engaged Satan began to intensify his assaults on us.  Early on I told my Darling that from time to time I would state the temptations I was feeling out loud.  I explained that by saying them out loud and making her aware of them it helped me recognize how foolish the temptation was and made sure I wouldn’t do it.  For example, we set very specific rules about what kind of physical contact was okay.  When I felt tempted to cross that line I summoned my courage, told my Darling what I was feeling, and we put a little more space between us so it would be easier to win that battle.  We spent more and more time together as our wedding date approached, and Satan continued to intensify his attempts to prevent us from having a temple marriage.  We worked to communicate, to bring the dark temptations we were experiencing into the light, and we never once crossed the lines that we set.

This tool is simple, it takes some guts, but it is astoundingly effective.  Imagine the power that could be yours if you told your spouse, “I really want to cheat on my diet right now.”  Once you have the thought out in the open, it is a lot easier to wrestle with.  Also, everyone you know almost certainly experiences the same kinds of dark thoughts, feelings, and temptations that you do.  If your spouse told you, “I really don't want to go exercise right now” at the exact same time you were having the exact same experience, how likely would you be to judge or condemn them?  I’m guessing you would probably feel relieved and understood even though they were the one who said the thought out loud.

Satan has been practicing psychological warfare for thousands of years.  Don’t try to outthink him.  That is like the moment in The Princess Bride when Vizzini agrees to have a battle of wits with Westley.  You remember the scene?  After Vizzini dies in the midst of his victory cackle, Buttercup says, “To think -- all that time it was your cup that was poisoned.”  Westley responds, “They were both poisoned. I spent the last few years building up an immunity to Iocaine powder.”  Moral of the story: don’t fight Satan on his own battlefield.  No matter what you do, you are almost certain to lose.  He’s got the field rigged in his favor!  Say your temptation out loud, shine a spotlight on it, and you’ll find it is much easier to win your battles.

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Creepy Guy Detector and the Aura of Ammon

There is a special Gift of the Spirit that comes as a form of protection. It is an extension of the Gift of Discernment and among the programs at Life Changing Services it is known as "The Creepy Guy Detector."  It is also sometimes called the “Creep-o-meter.” This is a gift that some men have and many can learn. On the other hand, God has blessed almost all of His daughters with this protecting gift, they just need to be taught how to recognize it and always heed its warning.

There seems to be a strong connection between the righteous women of Zion and the ability to discern creepy versus pure, good from evil, and the origin of social trends. "Many women have the gift of discernment. Often blessed with the power to know and understand beyond their experience." -Elaine L. Jack (April 1996 General Conference)

This Creepy Guy Detector is a real thing. It is difficult to describe what it feels like, but a couple stories from a General Conference talk relate very well.

When he was a young man, Elder Spencer V. Jones of the Quorum of the Seventy was out at night with two friends. One friend accidentally kicked a skunk and all three of them got sprayed. They smelt so bad that they were not allowed in the house, were subjected to many humiliating home remedies for the stench (which all failed), and nobody would interact with them for days.

After a while, naively thinking the smell was gone, we tried to approach some normal-smelling girls. They would not allow us within yards…

At times, consequences of sin may appear to be very subtle to the sinner. We may even convince ourselves, as we did before approaching the girls, that no one will be able to detect our sins and that they are well concealed. But always to our Heavenly Father and often to spiritually sensitive leaders, parents, and friends, our sins are glaringly apparent.

While attending a youth fireside with Elder Richard G. Scott, I noticed five youths scattered among the congregation whose countenances or body language almost screamed that something was spiritually amiss in their lives. After the meeting, when I mentioned the five youths to Elder Scott, he simply replied, 'There were eight.'" -Spencer V. Jones (April 2003 General Conference, emphasis added)

To those who have this spiritual awareness, sin cannot be hidden. They may not know what is amiss in the sinner's life, but they know something is "off" or not quite right.

Anyone who is willing to work can learn the Gift of Discernment and the accompanying Creepy Guy Detector.  Russel M. Nelson has said that:

Personal revelation can be honed to become spiritual discernment. To discern means to sift, to separate, or to distinguish. The gift of spiritual discernment is a supernal gift. It allows members of the Church to see things not visible and to feel things not tangible.  With that gift, sisters may view trends in the world and detect those that, however popular, are shallow or even dangerous (April 2009 General Conference).

Aneladee Milne who is a mental health therapist and an expert on teaching about The Creepy Guy Detector describes it this way:

The Creepy Guy Detector is the sense a girl or woman gets when she detects there is something off about someone. We call it a “felt” sense. The felt sense is a manifestation in her body. The creepy guy detector is a subtle repulsive feeling. It is sometimes felt in the gut. She will notice her nose curl up a little as if something smells “fishy” (click here to read more of what she has to say).

An important point that I want to make is that even though we call this gift of discernment the Creepy Guy Detector, it is not only men who are “creepy” or not living virtuous lives.  Women as well as men can give off a creepy vibe.  Boys and men may be less likely to notice this unvirtuous vibe because this gift of discernment does not seem to come as easily or naturally to them. That is one reason why it is so important for parents to meet the friends and romantic partners of their children. Teenagers either may not notice or may not pay attention to the subtle spiritual warnings they are receiving about the people around them.

If you are the one who has some sort of relationship with someone who sets off your Creep-o-meter, seriously seek the guidance of the Holy Ghost to find out if you are safe around that person.  You most likely aren’t, or the Creepy Guy Detector would not be going off in the first place.  You will likely feel compelled to stay with them, because if you just love them enough then they will change and rid themselves of their unvirtuous habits.  That is not your job.  It is very rare that your staying with them will actually bring them to a better place.  You may actually be accidentally sending the message that you are okay with the stench of skunk that they carry, that you are okay with the lifestyle that causes them to reek of sin.  Leaving your friend, partner, or whoever it is may be one of the most helpful things you can do for them, and definitely safer for you.

As with other spiritual principles, there is an opposition in all things. Just as there is a spiritual aura that is repulsive, there is another that is attractive. I don't mean attractive in a romantic sense. We just feel safe around these people.  Feeling safe around someone and feeling good around them are not the same thing. It feels edifying, uplifting, safe, and even healing to spend time with this kind of individual. Again, this is something that women tend to notice more than men. It also tends to mean much more to women than it does to men. When I was younger I called this influence the Aura of Ammon (mostly because I liked the alliteration in the name). As I learned, I discovered this is really part of the Light of Christ shining through somebody.

We need to learn and be taught to pay close attention to the Creepy Guy Detector within us. It will give advance warning if someone close to us (a friend, a parent, a sibling, a spouse, etc.) is living an unvirtuous life.  This “felt sense,” this gift of discernment can help keep us and those we love safe from physical, emotional, and spiritual harm.  It can also help to bring sources of light into their life and their home.  Elder Boyd K. Packer said, “We need women with the gift of discernment who can view the trends in the world and detect those that, however popular, are shallow or dangerous.  We need women who can discern those positions that may not be popular at all, but are right" (October 1978 General Conference).

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Out of Sight, Out of Mind

One of Satan's primary tactics is to try and get you to forget about your Border Patrol activities.  He works tirelessly to get you to forget your PWR goals, your drills, and to mark your calendar.  He works to get you to forget why you fight, what you value, and who you truly are.  Because this is a primary tactic of your adversary, creating reminder systems will be crucial to your long-term success.

Many people initially set reminders on their phones for their different Border Patrol activities and other things they need to remember in order to win.  I've discovered that for most people this works well for about three days to seven days. After that, many warriors will begin to ignore these digital reminders.  When used correctly, digital reminders can be quite powerful, when used incorrectly they become easily ignored.

There are four tools that I know of that improve how effective digital reminders are. The first is to choose a time for the alarm or notification to go off that you will most likely not be busy with something you can’t immediately abandon in order to do your drill or Border Patrol activity. The second tool is to choose an alarm or notification sound that you will pay attention to. For me, I intentionally choose annoying sounds that are hard for me to ignore. For others that I talk to, they choose songs or sounds that they really enjoy so that they will pay attention to the reminder. Tool number three is to practice never ignoring it, and being very intentional with accomplishing your drill or Border Patrol activity every time your reminder goes off.  Ignoring your reminder even once can easily sabotage your reminder system and make it much easier to forget or ignore your Border Patrol.  The last tool that I recommend for increasing the efficiency of digital reminders is to periodically change the time when your reminder goes off as well as the song or tone attached to it.  This will make it easier to pay attention to and act on, especially if you find that your reminders lose their potency after three days to a week.

For some, digital reminders will always be less effective than physical reminders.  Physical reminders can come in many forms.  I used to place a large rock in the middle of my bedroom floor to remind me to pray. After my brother stubbed his toes on it three or four times I decided to switch it to a tripwire. I figured that since I woke up earlier than he did it would hurt him less. I also figured that if I forgot to pray then feeling the rope against my ankles would remind me. If I forgot about the rope and tripped then I could pray while I was down on the floor. That plan worked well for me (and let my brother's toes heal). Other physical reminders that work well are bracelets, hanging a string from a doorway at eye level, notes on pillows or bathroom mirrors, or similar things.  I heard of one young man who replaced his bedroom door with a sheet and set the rule that any time he touched that sheet he had to freeze and say a prayer.  It worked very well for him and he found that on his more forgetful mornings, he would be saying six or more prayers before leaving for school.

Another effective reminder system is to associate Border Patrol activities with things you already do every day. For example, for as long as I can remember my father has read his scriptures while he was eating his breakfast. By associating those two things he almost never forgets or neglects his personal study of the scriptures.

A similar but different way to help yourself remember is to create a specific time every day when you will do your Border Patrol activity. I have vivid memories for much of my life of my mother waking up before my siblings and I started getting ready for school so that she could have some quiet time she could communicate with God and study her scriptures. I have many memories of seeing her in the living room early in the morning reading from her scriptures, already filled with red underlines from the years of study she has done.

There are many forms that your personal reminder system can take.  However you do it, it is an essential part of your long-term success that you develop a method of reminding yourself to accomplish your Border Patrol activities.

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